Marg Callow; sit tibi terra levis
Jun. 12th, 2022 10:27 amLast month my dear friend Margaret Callow died. Her funeral today, at the Wantirna Seventh-day Adventist Church, is being held on what would have been her 99th birthday. Unfortunately, I am unable to attend, although I am sure that Marg would understand the reasons why; travelling to Western Australia to attend the national conference of the Australia-China Friendship Society with a view toward environmental engineering projects in the PRC.
I knew Marg for just over the last twenty years through the Melbourne Unitarian Peace Memorial Church. We soon recognised in each other common elements of our soul; a committment to the religious liberalism espoused in Unitarian-Universalism, to social justice, to the wondrous reality that is our shared universe, expressed by poet and scientist alike, and a quiet but deep dislike of the treatment of animals in the food industry. More than four decades my senior, I marvelled at her first-hand experience and knowledge of what I could only call "history", and her critical intelligence that was not at all afraid to admit that she had changed her opinions on many subjects as the facts become known.
This marvellous, active, and inquiring mind did not diminish in the years and we would often have quite animated conversations on any topic of interest and importance. My involvement in Linux Users of Victoria led her to try out this operating system when she was in her eighties, agreeing with the principles of free and open-source knowledge. Of course, as good as a mind can be parts of the body do not always keep up to the same standard. I recall shortly after the installation I received a worried 'phone call that everything on her systems had disappeared and she was just getting a blank screen. I asked her to check the power to the monitor, and she assured me that it was fine. Eventually, I took the train out to Boronia from Ripponlea, a 3 hour round trip. Sure enough, the power was on, but the switch had not been pressed. Well, at least it was a good excuse for a visit and some sandwiches.
Small and feisty there were a couple of incidents later in her life that caused more concerns from her friends than to her. I recall several years back in her nineties when she was absent from the Unitarians after a fall and when she returned I asked with concern how she was feeling. She threw a disparaging mock punch at me and exclaimed: "Oh! It's just a couple of cracked ribs!". Clearly, she would was made of pretty strong stuff.
Smart and tough, Marg also had a very gentle and loving side. I recall, after learning a bit about my own unusual family background, she took me aside and said "Well Lev, you don't have a grandmother so I'll be your grandmother if you'll have me". What a curious and delightful circumstances of life that leads to a proposal to be a grandmother! Of course, I readily accepted an offer from such a person of magnificent virtue. If there is to be a word that I would use to sum my experience with Marg, it would be "virtue" - a person of excellence in every domain of life. The world is a place a little more grey now that she is no longer with us, but there is a very bright spirit that lives in our memories.
I knew Marg for just over the last twenty years through the Melbourne Unitarian Peace Memorial Church. We soon recognised in each other common elements of our soul; a committment to the religious liberalism espoused in Unitarian-Universalism, to social justice, to the wondrous reality that is our shared universe, expressed by poet and scientist alike, and a quiet but deep dislike of the treatment of animals in the food industry. More than four decades my senior, I marvelled at her first-hand experience and knowledge of what I could only call "history", and her critical intelligence that was not at all afraid to admit that she had changed her opinions on many subjects as the facts become known.
This marvellous, active, and inquiring mind did not diminish in the years and we would often have quite animated conversations on any topic of interest and importance. My involvement in Linux Users of Victoria led her to try out this operating system when she was in her eighties, agreeing with the principles of free and open-source knowledge. Of course, as good as a mind can be parts of the body do not always keep up to the same standard. I recall shortly after the installation I received a worried 'phone call that everything on her systems had disappeared and she was just getting a blank screen. I asked her to check the power to the monitor, and she assured me that it was fine. Eventually, I took the train out to Boronia from Ripponlea, a 3 hour round trip. Sure enough, the power was on, but the switch had not been pressed. Well, at least it was a good excuse for a visit and some sandwiches.
Small and feisty there were a couple of incidents later in her life that caused more concerns from her friends than to her. I recall several years back in her nineties when she was absent from the Unitarians after a fall and when she returned I asked with concern how she was feeling. She threw a disparaging mock punch at me and exclaimed: "Oh! It's just a couple of cracked ribs!". Clearly, she would was made of pretty strong stuff.
Smart and tough, Marg also had a very gentle and loving side. I recall, after learning a bit about my own unusual family background, she took me aside and said "Well Lev, you don't have a grandmother so I'll be your grandmother if you'll have me". What a curious and delightful circumstances of life that leads to a proposal to be a grandmother! Of course, I readily accepted an offer from such a person of magnificent virtue. If there is to be a word that I would use to sum my experience with Marg, it would be "virtue" - a person of excellence in every domain of life. The world is a place a little more grey now that she is no longer with us, but there is a very bright spirit that lives in our memories.