I suppose I really should mention...

[tcpip]

... that I suggested to caseopaya that we get a civil union in accordance with Victorian law.

She said yes.

(I "blame", in part, airiefairie's excellent proposal for ending state-sanctioned marriage in favour of civil unions for all, and beagl and kimeros for cutting a similar path. Thanks for the inspiration.)

Comments

[tau-iota-mu-c.livejournal.com]

Cool! Dancing line of conga rats!

[mr-orgue.livejournal.com]

NZ legislation for civil unions is basically a cut-and-paste of marriage legislation, but there's a clause that the words "husband" and "wife" are reserved for marriage and cannot be used in relation to civil unions.

So, yes, the marriage police.

[tau-iota-mu-c.livejournal.com]

It might just be my troublemaker tendencies, but I'd use it anyway just to see what would happen.

What would they charge you with?

[mr-orgue.livejournal.com]

Heh. Undermining the sanctity of the family unit! Really I guess it just means that if we ever make any legal declaration about each other, and we use the words "husband" and "wife", any other party who wants to can cause us legal headaches because by law we're not allowed to use those words. It's a stupid rule but because it's there it can be used!

Also, we couldn't use the words "husband" and "wife" in the formal parts of the ceremony - if we had, then legally the ceremony wouldn't have been performed properly and our celebrant wouldn't have signed off. It's that level of silliness.

Anyway, it's turned out to be quite a neat mental exercise. We actually quite like that we don't have social roles to fall into/rebel against, and instead we can make up our own...

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

*nods* Yes she did, "Marriages should be left strictly to private religious institutions or social groups... Civil unions, on the other hand, are purely legal constructions with no affiliation to any culture, religion, or social group. That is the domain of the government."

You are in the presence of a wise woman :)

I can recognise that the model proposed is indeed the most beneficial pathway for the future that could keep everyone in the debate happy. So yes, very seriously indeed!

[anthanum.livejournal.com]

congratulations from Clare and I,
and all of the cats :P

[jo-hoetmer.livejournal.com]

Congrats from me too! When's the big day???

[kremmen.livejournal.com]

But we can usually trust Lev to go for the uncommon, even when already within the scope of the uncommon. :)

[kremmen.livejournal.com]

Good for you.

... And that's a nifty article too.

[abomvubuso.livejournal.com]

You are in the presence of a wise woman :)

Indeed, i am! :)

[beagl.livejournal.com]

Congratulations to you both and I wish you every happiness!

Civil unions are clearly superior to marriage. :)

[caseopaya.livejournal.com]

Isn't it just ;P

[caseopaya.livejournal.com]

Do you actually think we're that organised? :p

[lindsay40k.livejournal.com]

YESSSSSSSSSS

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

We are organised; we've allocated 2 weeks off work for planning workshops in Sanur, Ubud and Yogyakarta.

[nvcarnie.livejournal.com]

Congrats! :-D

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

That you Mr. Cat. We'll do our best to fulfill your wishes!

The Union makes us strong :)

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Heheh... It does sound a little like what you and D did. But I don't think we could quite match how you managed to effectively elope and have a public ceremony :)

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Something in the water perhaps?

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Indeed... I wonder whether over time such a variation will pick up particular traction?

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Zombie snake!

Hmm... It would be cheating if cas and I started counting from 2002, wouldn't it?

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Even in Texas? Guess there is still room for progressive thinking there..

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Cake is always required.

PS: I renewed the Lanidale domain a couple of days ago - I assumed that would be OK..

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

Thank you! And "ooh, nice icon!"

[tcpip.livejournal.com]

All too appropriate in our case!